If your spouse dies today, what would be your could have, would have, should have? Whatever it is, start today!
Typically, after the loss of a loved one many people find themselves wishing they could have done _____ or would not have done ____ or not have been so______.
If your spouse dies today, what would be your could have, would have, should have? Whatever it is, start today!
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A daughter and her father was driving and suddenly faced a horrible storm.
The daughter asked "Father, should I pull over?" Father replied, "no, keep driving. The storm got worse and the daughter asked again, "Father, should I pull over?" "No, daughter. Keep driving". Again and again she wanted to pull over. Father said "No"! Eventually, they drove thru the storm to clear a blue sky. The father said now pull over and look behind you. Everyone who pulled over is STILL in the storm. In marriage you're going to face many storms. Don't stop driving! Don't pull over! Keep loving! Keep pushing through! Blue skies are up ahead. On my way to work this morning, I drove through my neighborhood and noticed lawns are starting to change colors.
As the season start to change, we will notice a difference in the color and texture of our lawns. The grass is starting to fade. The leaves are starting to fall. It’s time to prepare it for the cold weather by keeping the roots stimulated with fall feedings and additional care. Many will start to winterize it with special fertilizers and seeding. This extra care will prepare it for the winter storms and the changing seasons to come. The preparations now will help to prepare for beautiful healthy green grass for the upcoming spring and summer. In marriage it is inevitable that storms and cold seasons will come, it's all a part of life. There will be times when love will start to fade or even get cold. What are you doing now to safeguard it? Your marriage is worth more than grass! Water it... nourish it... Protect IT! Be Bless, Bev You chose this person to be your companion for life or for eternity- whatever you believe in. There must be several admirable qualities that they possess that made you want to spend your life with them. After you are married, you will discover little things about each other that may be annoying or quirky or even aggravating. We ALL have imperfections.
For example: My husband has a habit of placing things where he knows it doesn’t belong, just to “put it away”. Early in our marriage I would get so annoyed with him when I couldn’t find something and later discover its in the wrong spot. Then I realized he was at least trying to keep our home neat and I could be cleaning up after him. I decided I wanted to be happily married and that this wasn’t a character flaw- he's only trying to help. So, when I see something out of place, I chuckled or shake my head at the fact that he tries and return it to its proper home. Or, make adjustments if it makes his life easier. If you choose to see your spouse through the lens of the things that annoy you, you will be miserable in your marriage. If you instead choose to see your spouse for the entirety of who they are and keep at the forefront of your mind all the wonderful qualities they possess that drew you to them in the first place, it becomes easier to let the little annoyances go. Make adjustments where you can and keep the little things little. Be blessed, Bev Headed to the office this morning and passed a wreck that appeared to be a fatality. Immediately, I wondered if that husband or wife was expected home for dinner. Who would pick up the kids from school and feed them dinner? I also wondered if they remember to kiss and say good-bye to their spouse, even if they weren’t speaking.
How did you leave your house this morning? Angry, happy, not speaking? Was there a heated discussion planned to be continued after work? Be careful how you leave one another – it just might be the last time you see them. “Life’s too short. Don’t trip” – SIL/RIP Be blessed, Bev ![]() Often in relationships, including marriage and friendship, we unconsciously find ourselves keeping scores of what others do or don't do for us. We tally up the good deeds we do for others and even keep count of the wrong things others have done to us. "You should do this because I did that" or "I'm not going to do anything for you because you did this to me". Either way, we're calculating the points and awarding favors based upon our own point system. Erase the Scoreboard! I challenge you for this month of love to erase the score board with your spouse. Forget about what was done in the past and focus on the right now. Don't concern yourself with what they did or did not do. "What have you done for me lately" doesn't matter. To be kind is more important than to be right. Show acts of service because you love them but don't expect anything in return. Example: Run their bath water or turn on the shower. Fix their plate for breakfast, lunch or dinner. Send flowers, cards or candy just because. Give a compliment and say Thank You. It might just create a chain reaction. It only takes one person, and one act of kindness to inspire others and create change. Be blessed, Bev ![]() When is the last time you've had a good laugh? I'm talking about a good laugh that left you exhausted afterwards. You know, the one where your side hurts, your eyes water, you can't catch your breath and your body's totally spent. It feels like you've just finished a two-hour session at the gym. "Laughter is the best medicine" There is a lot of truth in that old saying and some of it applies to our relationships. So it's no secret that laughter makes us feel good, and we all get along better with people when we feel good. It creates, and in some cases, restores, a positive atmosphere and is essential for a good relationship. Like yawning, laughter is contagious; the laughter of others is irresistible. Though we can't control what happens in life, we can control the way we react to these events. So the next time you come in from a stressful day at the office, or the kids have worked on your last nerve, turn to your mate and LAUGH! It won't make problems go away. But it can set the stage for tackling them together! During my Saturday morning run, I was thinking of what to post to wrap up this week of thanksgiving. I wondered if I truly celebrated the holiday in the manner it was intended to be celebrated. I asked myself a few questions: Was I with family? Did we share our Gratefulness? Did I express it? Often times we assume family, friends and especially our spouses KNOW we love and appreciate them. Although they probably do, hearing the words are twice as nice as knowing! Don't let this weekend end without expressing your gratitude. After all feeling gratitude and not expressing it, is like wrapping a gift and not giving it. Be blessed, Bev My dear friend and I were talking about things that frustrate us and what we wish we could do to change them. We quickly realized we both wished we had what the other had. Whether it was a smaller body, longer legs, better jobs or better relationships, there is always something someone else has that you wished you had and vice-versa.
Let's face it, someone would LOVE to fit in your shoes. Someone wish they could take your place....Some will even try. So, I've learned to stop focusing on the negative and highlight the positive. The more I focus on what bugs me, the more I seem to find reasons to be bugged. Funny how that works, huh? So do yourself a favor and don't get so caught up in the negativity that you can't see that your spouse is truly amazing! Isn't that why you married them? Be blessed, Bev |
AuthorI am wife, mother, grandmother, fitness coach and trainer and most of all a Christian. I possess a burning desire to help others. I'm not an expert on relationships. But I've been through some test and aspire to share my testimonies to provide hope for couples who made a vow to give up their individual identities and become ONE! Archives
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