Day 5 - Kissing Game Kiss your spouse multiple times today!
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Day 4 When is the last time you wrote a letter? Yeah! It's been a while for me too.
Pull out your pen and paper and write a love note to your spouse today. Doesn't have to be long. In fact, short sweet and straight to the point is perfect? Place it where you know they will find it - bathroom, fridge, car, or somewhere they are sure to go! https://youtu.be?j9ZbOfcwoJI Day 3 Let your spouse know you're thinking about them through out the day. Send flirty text messages multiple times today. Now if you're like me, it's easy to get caught up in your day and forget. So just as you do with important meetings, set up multiple times in your phone so you won't forget - This is IMPORTANT!
Day 2 It's easy to get caught up in the "routine" of marriage especially with kids, work, social media, church, etc.
Today we're going to spend 30 minutes MINIMUM talking to our spouse. No phones, tv, kids - just the 2 of you! Day 1 Let's start with some gratitude. Often we take our spouse for granted assuming he or she know how much we appreciate them.
Make a quick list of a few things you appreciate about your spouse and let them know. Day 8Creative Monday!
Let’s have some fun today. Find a place in your home or (WHEREVER) that you’ve never done “it” and make it happen! List some suggestions below #30DayMarriageChallenge Day 7Happy Sunday!
Today’s assignment is to pray for your spouse. Not just for what YOU want. Let them know you’re going to be praying for them today and ask them what they specifically want you to pray for. Saying I'm sorry requires a certain amount of courage and humility that most people don't want to show. Instead, they would rather stop speaking to you or play the victim.
What does this do to your relationship? We are all wrong at some point. However, when you've wronged the person you love but won't admit it and say I'm sorry, what does that say about how you really feel about them? Don't allow your pride to make you miss out on happy moments and special occasions. When you've done somebody wrong, admit it and be sorry. No one in history has ever chocked to death from swallowing their pride. #SimplyBsorry Beverly When cooking a turkey, it's necessary to check the temperature occasionally throughout the cooking process. You want to make sure the temperature is maintained just right to keep from over cooking or under cooking. Over cooking will produce the dreaded dry breast while under cooking can cause sickness throughout your family. Your bird can appear to be perfectly fine and delicious on the outside. Even after you place your golden brown bird in the center of your perfectly set table and carve the first piece, it’s not until you’re enjoying the fruit of your labor that you discover somethings gone wrong. It’s either dry or under cooked. Either way it’s ruined! What temperature is your marriage? Is there something simmering beneath the surface waiting to boil over at an inopportune moment? Or has it cooled off completely, from constantly being put on the back burner?
The secret to a good marriage is good communication. But where do you start? It seems many marriage conversations revolve around who is picking up which kid from what event, and what's for dinner. Real communication involves sharing from the heart. And it doesn't have to take huge chunks of time. So where do you start? Here’s an exercise you might want to try for regular temperature readings. Start your conversation by adressing these 5 things weekly or daily: 1. Appreciation 2. New Information 3. Puzzles 4. Complaints with a Request for Change 5. Wishes, Hopes and Dreams How does it work? Each category is shared back and forth like a tennis match. First the wife might share something she appreciates, then the husband. Then move on to any New Information. Puzzles are next, sharing something that is concerning you. But wait! This isn't a time for problem solving! After you share your puzzle, your spouse shares theirs. This is all about communicating what is going on inside your heart, mind and life. This is not a time for long discussions in any of the categories. Because if you had time for long discussions, you'd be having them right? This is about taking 15 minutes and sharing with one another about your life, your day, your dreams, and keeping an open line of communication. Next comes complaints with a request for change. What this doesn't look like is "You never take out the trash!" That is a complaint and an attack. What it could look like is, "I notice because you're not in the kitchen as often as I am, you don't see when the trash is full. Would you be willing to check the trash can every evening before bed so you get into the routine of taking it out before it's overflowing and I'm complaining?" Finally, Wishes, Hopes, and Dreams. This is just a fun way to share something you're thinking about that you'd like to do. Publish a book, travel, sleep, eat outside, etc. Speak from the heart. Nothing is too big or too small. It's too easy to get into a rut, where your spouse becomes more like a roommate than a partner. These weekly temperature checks can keep you close, even when the world is pulling you apart. Then hopefully your marriage's temperature will be just right, and no one will end up burned. This exercise can keep you and your spouse having an open line of communication, keep the temperature of the marriage from getting too hot or too cold, and give you a better understanding of what is going on in your partner's world. Then when you have more time together without interruption, like date night, you can explore the things you've been talking about in depth or do other things…. As always, I'd love for you to share your thoughts. Be blessed, Beverly The more you invest in your marriage the more valuable it becomes.
Attending workshops, couples retreats, counseling and purchasing relationship books, and movies are all necessary to grow your marriage. Investing in your relationship will take your marriage from Striving to THRIVING! What tools have you invested in that really helped your relationship? #IronSharpensIron |
AuthorI am wife, mother, grandmother, fitness coach and trainer and most of all a Christian. I possess a burning desire to help others. I'm not an expert on relationships. But I've been through some test and aspire to share my testimonies to provide hope for couples who made a vow to give up their individual identities and become ONE! Archives
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