You chose this person to be your companion for life or for eternity- whatever you believe in. There must be several admirable qualities that they possess that made you want to spend your life with them. After you are married, you will discover little things about each other that may be annoying or quirky or even aggravating. We ALL have imperfections.
For example: My husband has a habit of placing things where he knows it doesn’t belong, just to “put it away”. Early in our marriage I would get so annoyed with him when I couldn’t find something and later discover its in the wrong spot. Then I realized he was at least trying to keep our home neat and I could be cleaning up after him. I decided I wanted to be happily married and that this wasn’t a character flaw- he's only trying to help. So, when I see something out of place, I chuckled or shake my head at the fact that he tries and return it to its proper home. Or, make adjustments if it makes his life easier.
If you choose to see your spouse through the lens of the things that annoy you, you will be miserable in your marriage. If you instead choose to see your spouse for the entirety of who they are and keep at the forefront of your mind all the wonderful qualities they possess that drew you to them in the first place, it becomes easier to let the little annoyances go. Make adjustments where you can and keep the little things little.
Be blessed,
Bev
For example: My husband has a habit of placing things where he knows it doesn’t belong, just to “put it away”. Early in our marriage I would get so annoyed with him when I couldn’t find something and later discover its in the wrong spot. Then I realized he was at least trying to keep our home neat and I could be cleaning up after him. I decided I wanted to be happily married and that this wasn’t a character flaw- he's only trying to help. So, when I see something out of place, I chuckled or shake my head at the fact that he tries and return it to its proper home. Or, make adjustments if it makes his life easier.
If you choose to see your spouse through the lens of the things that annoy you, you will be miserable in your marriage. If you instead choose to see your spouse for the entirety of who they are and keep at the forefront of your mind all the wonderful qualities they possess that drew you to them in the first place, it becomes easier to let the little annoyances go. Make adjustments where you can and keep the little things little.
Be blessed,
Bev